does weight lifitng takes away the desire for sex?

Weight training shouldn't lower libido, if anything it might make it stronger because the person feels better about their body and more confident. However, steroid use for muscle building can kill libido and cause erectile dysfunction.

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Lori

he does have a good erection the problem is the desire of having sex, he is 45 years old and he is not as active as he should

Again I have to tell you that weight training should not lower his desire--it also gives a boost to the available testosterone which in turn can increase his libido. Something else is going on, and you'll have to work with your husband to figure it out together. Is he willing to talk about it with you? There are many reasons for decreased libido--stress, body image, poor diet, high cholesterol or blood pressure, stigma, relationship problems, lack of sleep, fatigue, etc. If he just has no sexual desire (doesn't think about sex or attempt to have sex on his own) this could be due to low hormones or a psychological issue. Has anything happened in your husband's past that would affect his desire to have sex? Is there anything going on now--i.e. stress, change of jobs, financial difficulties, depression, alcohol or drug use? Do you and your husband spend plenty of time together as a couple, being intimate, but not sexually active? For instance, do you take walks together, have good conversation, laugh with one another? Sexuality is a complex issue with lots of factors involved. In order to be able to help your husband, the two of you really have to get to the root of his problem. Has he had a complete blood work up? There are different physical problems that can lead to low libido as well. I suggest you reassess the situation with all of these questions in mind to help him to get to the root of this. Having a satisfying sex life is a very important aspect of any marriage. It helps to bond us and create a level of intimacy that we cannot get anywhere else.

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Lori

today i found a little package of 2 pills that it said stimulant sex for man , he had it hiden and i dont know if i should aproach him and tell him i found it, he is very stress money wise, and sometimes when i say something he tells me we are too old for so much sex,also when we have intercourse once we finish he ends up exhausted and falls asleep immediately, you think is health problems?

i know i havent click accept but as soon as you reply this last question i will click it
thank you for help.

It could be health related, but it could be psychological as well, and the only way to know at this point is a visit to the doctor. He needs to have a complete physical with blood tests to rule out anything physical. If he has those pills and he hasn't talked with you about it, it could be that he's embarressed. I wouldn't bring it up just yet. Gentle encourage him to have himself checked out, all the while reassuring him that you love him and don't ever let him feel that he is a disappointment to you. Put the emphasis on his physical well-being. Let him know that this sexual side effect is simply a side effect of something else going on, and you want him to be healthy so the two of you can spend the rest of your lives together. In the meantime, be very cuddley and affectionate, but not like you're trying to seduce him into having sex. This may put too much pressure on him to perform. Let him know with your words and actions that you love him, value him, and want to be close to him but not always sexually. If it turns out that it isn't physical, then some couples therapy can help you with a psychological issue. Just make sure that he always knows that you love him and are there to support him.

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Lori

i just want to let you know that he does have a good erection and and he spends a long time before
"coming" the problem is he never has the initiative

I understand, and the response I gave was specific to his desire to have sex. You seem like a caring and supportive wife, and I encourage you to help him in addressing the issues above.

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