Hello, it sounds like your fiance is really uncomfortable with himself and though you didn't cause the issues you're describing you are definitely involved and it's not healthy emotionally perhaps?

Consider rethinking your own life goals and needs as well.

There is someone out there who loves YOU for who you are when they are with you.If this isn't the case maybe it's not the right one at the right time...

It would be really great if you could get some counseling asap . ( find a church for some free counseling,if you need help on this I can resource some sites if you send me your area)

Are you certain you want to marry someone who's not taking care of himself physically or who really doesn't meet your needs as you've described?

Second thoughts are sometimes good ones.Think about it.

You're a kind,caring person.That alone qualifies you as someone who deserves the same person in who you marry.

Does this describe your fiance? A lifetime decision deserves some action concerning "is it the right thing."

Here's a site that might help.

Changing Your Self-Concept and Building Self-Esteem - Psychological Self-Help I hope you take a minute to be nice to yourself and read this. You matter !

Would love to hear from you anytime!

Hello, I understand how much you appreciate him and that he's a really private person.

Try keeping a journal and look back after writing your thoughts ( say,in a month) and see if the low self esteem

happens more often around ten days or less before your menstral period or if there's anything that sets a pattern

for your thoughts as well as his.

You're wise to look at the bright side and also being really honest with yourself about his behavior. You seem to be

a bright woman and I think he probably appreciates you also.

I used to make my husband ( father of six children) an "I appreciate you cake" every once in a while with his name on it and though he didn't go "gaga" over it I believe it helped him "keep on keepin on" which can be a hard thing to do sometimes on the job.

Do something good for yourself and him.Something small but meaningful every time you feel things are not working as well as you'd like..and if you are a believer in God do pray..it works wonders.

You're in my prayers for a future with promise.

God bless tk 1977!

Hi Customer (name blocked for privacy),here is a site that should help you.Depression Chat and Depression Support Group.

Have a good day! Let me know if you need other sites please?