what should i do about my step daughter who has been caught ...

The only way she could be checked to see if there has been wrong touching would be if she had had sexual intercourse and penetration had occured. I am not sure how old she is but this can be a normal process in children as they are curious when they get a certain age and explore. If nothing has come out in therapy she may not want to admit it or it may not have happened. The bad thing about schools and being around other children is hearing things that you don't necessarily want them to know at a young age. I would only have her checked if you feel that sexual intercourse has happened as the doctor can confirm this but they may not be able to tell if only touching has occured especially if she will not admit it in therapy. I suggest talking to her as well about safe sex and give all protection advice as possibleas with todays society it is alot more advanced then it was when we were younger. My youngest daughter is only 11 and I have had many talks with her as I know she hears and learns things in school and is hard to be prevented. I feel with the therapy and the guidence from the home she will do okay, it just takes strictness nowadays to keep them from exploring into sex before they should.

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she has been caught touching my duaughter and another little boy. she also writes in her journal about these things.

she also says she does this stuff because she likes to and wants to. she also admits all the time she nos that it is wrong.

Then she obviously needs to be kept away from situations where she is alone with them as this can cause possible mental problems with your daughter and the other boy. If she admits that she knows it is wrong and is still doing it continued intense therapy is HIGHLY advised. And it is going to take severe strictness and couseling on your husband and your part to stop this behavior and for her to know how high the consequenses can be due to this behavior. If she is not opening up to the therapist but she is to you then it may be benefit her for both you and your husband to have family couseling sessions with the therapist as she may open up more with both of you there. It also may be that you need to talk to her pediatrician about this behavior as well if the therapist has not helped maybe her physician can help to warm her about the problems with behavior such as this and the problems associated with it. I feel with her in therapy it is going to take constant monitoring on both you and your husband's part to help her through this as this is obviously a mental issue for her to be doing things that she knows is wrong and still does it because she wants to, it seems she is rebelling and this needs to be stopped immediatly before the family of the boy possible get involved in this and it causes more problems.

Edited by calliecat on November 8 2005 at 12:13pm

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