Customer (name blocked for privacy),
I agree with Kerry, although in emergency medicine, they
refer to 'the Golden Hour' (the first hour after a catastrophic injury) as
being the time when medical intervention is most effective -- there is no way
to know whether earlier treatment would have saved your son's life -- or, if it
had, what kind of lasting problems he may have had from the injury.
Although no one can feel your particular pain -- or
answer those questions which will always be with you -- there are other parents
who, because they have lost a child, can provide support to you and your family. This reference is an article about losing a
child in pregnancy -- but, below the article are many support groups and other
organizations for grieving parents. One
of the best is called Compassionate Friends.
You may find some helpful resources there.
I hope you will not mind if I share a personal story... when
I was about nine years old -- some friends of my parents lost a child when one
brother shot another while playing with a gun they both thought was unloaded. To this day, I can still see the empty chair
at that dining room table -- and the pain in the other brother's eyes...
I urge you to be very careful that your understandable and
normal questioning about your son's death -- does not, inadvertently, cause
your older son to feel that you blame him.
With that in mind, I recommend that you consider some grief counseling
for your family.
Here is the name and address of a local grief counselor:
Susan Couch, LMSW
Licensed Medical Social Worker -- specializing in grief counseling.
League City, TX
HelpHorizons Username: Susan Dian
Degrees:
MSW, BA
I could not find a telephone number online -- but she may be listed in your local telephone book.
Send an email to Susan
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Good Luck!
Steve
Edited by Oreport on October 7 2005 at 8:36pm__________________
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