Hi Customer (name blocked for privacy)-
What you are experiencing is actually quite common in women your age - many women don't have an orgasm until they are in their late twenties/early thirties. Furthermore, it's estimated that only 30% of women can achieve an orgasm through penile thrusting (when there is no stimulation of the clitoris).
One interesting study conducted a few years ago found that many women who thought they weren't able to have an orgasm actually were (as measured though brain waves, body temperature, vaginal wetness, etc.) - and once they were told by the researcher the exact point their bodies were physiologically reacting (having an orgasm), they were able to train themselves to notice and relax enough to fully enjoy the orgasm. Other studies have shown that a woman's ability and ease in having an orgasm is linked to her genes (click
here).
I'm not implying, per se, that you are having orgasms and not aware of it, although this may be something to keep in the back of your mind. Instead, it may be entirely possible that you have never had an orgasm. As such, here are some tips:
1. Most women need direct or indirect stimulous to their ciltoris to have an orgasm. If you have tried this through masturbation with your hands and have not been successful, you should invest in a good vibrator. An excellent choice can be found by
clicking here. Experiment with the vibrator. The first time you use it, the feeling may be quite intense - don't place the vibrating portion directly on your skin. Instead, try putting a few layers of clothes or blankets between your vagina and the vibrator - and try changing the location of the vibrator around your clitoris. You may also want to try a vibrator that focuses primarly on your G-Spot (for more information click the last link on this page).
Click here for an example.
2. If you have used vibrators with no success, try oral sex with your partner. Have him focus primarly on your clitoris. Many women have orgasms through this method given the soft nature of the tongue, combined with the ability to tell your partner how fast/slow to move.
3. If you have not had success with oral sex or a vibrator, you should probably head to your doctor. Do NOT feel embarassed about seeing your doctor about this - MANY women have this problem. You may have an underlying physical problem keeping you from achieving orgasm, or you may have a psychological problem affecting your ability to relax, etc. Additionally, if you are on ANY medication (particularly anti-depressants) be aware that it becomes more difficult for people (male and female) to have an orgasm. You should discuss your medications with your doctor if he/she determines this is a contributing factor.
For more information online, see:
http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/orgasm.htm
http://www.indiadiets.com/sex_guide/guide%20to%20womens%20orgasm/index.htm
http://drphil.com/articles/article/371
http://www.libchrist.com/sexed/Gspot.html
If you have any questions, feel free to ask!
Sincerely,
Emily
If you found the advice helpful, please hit ACCEPT. If you are not satisfied PLEASE let me know, or ask additional questions! Thank You! 