i have difficulty orgasming unless i masterbate why is it

Most woman are unable to have an orgasm during intercourse (penetration) itself. Generally it's the clitoris that has the nerve endings that allow for an orgasm. Normal sex doesn't give the stimulation needed. Now there are certain positions that can cause the penis to rub against the clitoris but since we are all made different you may have to find a position that works well for you. Generally with the female on top because she and go with an angle that will work. Doggie position can help as well. But it's not uncommon to not have an orgasm during penetration.

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I'm sorry for the confusion, I'm a gay male. I have trouble coming to orgasm while I am penetrating my partner.   I always have to pull out and materbate. He however does not have a problem cumming in me (using protection), I would like to orgasm, hands free, if you will.

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Those are all things I have thought of too. I do get stimulated, and lube is not a problem. I'm not nervous because we have been together a long time. It feels good and I enjoy it, but the one time I have orgasmed from sex it took literally an hour to do it. It was amazing but lord! I guess what I need to know is if there is anything I can do to make myself more sensitive or more likely to get myself over the "edge" you speak of and I hang onto for hours!

Quantity can play into this factor as well. If you are being sexual too often and or masturbate in between sessions this can delay ones ability to ejaculate as well. You are fairly young still so you are in that age group where men can last longer. And hour... well, sometimes that's not so bad.. but I can understand where you are coming from as well. I would try getting more worked up prior to any actual intercourse itself and also don't have sex for about a week and no masturbation as well. (not sure if you have tried that) There is no cream that will help, creams etc that are used is to prolong intercourse.. You also may want to try to masturbate yourself first (until you feel you get close to the edge) and then finish that way. If you are not circumcised as well that could also play into this as well) Another thing, is he tight enough for you.. have you always masturbated for most of your life. To me I believe men that do masturbate a lot (with or without a partner) their penis becomes accustomed to their hand making it the only way to ejaculate.. More of a mental thing than a physical. What do you think?