I work with my boyfriend he and another man that works with ...

No you have not been disloyal and he is going way overboard with his accusations and causing you to doubt yourself. One of the hardest relationships to have is one where you are romatically involved and also spend days working together as well. You need to honestly talk with him, make sure he knows that you are true to him and that it makes you feel bad that he does not have the trust in you that you deserve. I feel he is way over jealous and it will only get worse if you do not get a handle on this now. But do NOT doubt yourself you are only being yourself and have not been disloyal to him at all and if he does honestly care about you he would not ask these things of you, especially things that could make your job even more difficult or cause an issue with your job staying intact because you do not respect your supervisor. He needs to understand that these are his hard feelings over this man and he needs to come to terms with that and understand that is has nothing to do with you at all.

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This man just became our lead worker and he use to treat my boyfried terribly when he did our sales job, he was also a bad worker and my boyfriend is very resentful that this man fooled everyone, my boyfriend also feels I should be cold to him because of the way he treated him in the past and he said his enimes should be mine, he also brings up the point that he is cold to a woman whom I dont like, but I never asked him to, maybe he is looking for an excuse to break it off becasue I think this behaviour is strange.

Yes this is strange and if you did not ask him to dislike anyone then that choice is on him. Do not cause you to doubt yourself and change from who you are. I can understand if he was treated poorly that he has resentment, and I can see you not caring for the fact that he ws not nice to your boyfriend. But no one should ask you to change from who you are and your feelings. It doesn't sound like someone who wants to break it off but it does sound like someone who is being over jealous and dominating.

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Cheryl, he also told me since it seems every few weeks we have a major fight about this man that he is not sure how he feels about our relationship now because if i cant stand by him on this one issue if something major would happen I would not be there I told him this is not true and he is being silly, but he said it's not silly to him. then he said if I had any advice on how to handle this he would love to hear it but I dont have any, I dont feel I'm doing anything wrong and now I'm affraid I will loose him over this man he said it's not the man its that I would not stick by him.

I can tell you are torn between changing the person you are to make him happy or being the person to feel good about the decisions you make in life. I feel you should tell him that you will always stand by him but when it comes to your financial well-being you have to be professional at work. You could tell him all the things he wants to hear, and I can see some people feeling as though you should stand by them no matter what, but personal indifferences at work have to be kept seperate from your personal life no matter what to allow for a healthy thriving relationship. Try to make him understand that when you are at work, it is something you do to earn a living and you have to keep them seperate for the relationship to be better between you when away from those surroundings. You also have to make a choice between doing what you feel is right and making a change for someone other than yourself. I know that can be hard but I am sure if the tables were turned you would expect him to act professional at work and this is what you should try to help him to understand.

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