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Hi, my name is Nancy, my boyfriend had a bad motorcycle ...


Sent to Health Experts November 14, 2006 3:46 a.m.

Hi, my name is Nancy, my boyfriend had a bad motorcycle accident, they had him in a induced coma, he had surgery the day after his accident, to remove blood clots from his brain, nine days later he had intracranial pressure, they had to do a decompressive craniectomy, he has the bone in his abdomen. He opened his eyes three weeks after the accident. It will be 11 weeks on Thursday, since the accident. We both feel like we could have a nervous breakdown, his sister blamed me for his accident she has since turned the family against me, Anthony has come out of this like you wouldn't believe, he actually came out speaking like he just got a collage degree, the side of his head has caved in and he will be diabetic, he is learning how to walk again and his right hand shakes a lot, he will carry a conversation very well, he was a crane operator, worked on the base alot, he says things like he will get a pass, or he calls one male nurse his sargeant, and he has top secret info. continue...

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his family wont let us be together, they took his phone out when he ask's for it back, they lie and say he never had one, they have changed his room 3 times they are confusing him, they took pictures, letters, rosary, guardian angels everything I gave him he asks for it they say they don't know what he is talking about, he found a phone and called me he said he was going to have a break down because they dont listen to him he says hes can decide for himself who he will be with, he had his sister escorted out when she told him he couldn't even think straight. he was on the phone crying he said he needs me, they got a restraining order, they say they are looking out for him, i say this is hurting him why would they confuse him like that, we go to court 22nd, they want power of attorney or a note from the dr. that he can not make his own decisions, he's incompetent. he won't ever be the same man but he has come so far so quickly, he is very sharp. how can they be so ugly, they visit and tell him lies about me. I beg of you please help us what do I do if they get him to sign we will never see each other again, he was very upset he started crying they can't keep you from me I need you, he also said he was to tired to argue with them, his sister grabed the phone out of his hands and was scolding him like a child I started crying because he needs me I need him, how do I stop this, I can't even talk to any one in the hospital, I will be arrested, he wants to speak with his attorney, I phoned him no one mentioned the accident to him even though hes been defending his son, when he called the hospital they told him they didn't have a patient by that name!they have him under an alias! I'm scared for him, no one wants to help me! I'm in a living nightmare. this is the honest truth, please what do I do, he wants us to get married, he wants to come home with me. they will never let him, they will put him in a home. Im desperate, please help us!
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November 14, 2006 5:22 a.m. (1 hour and 36 minutes later)
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Nancy,
Hello. I understand your questions and this is a very difficult situation to be in. His family is doing everything in their power to stop you from seeing him. They are going through the extremes. Your best bet is only if the court or his doctor finds him competent to make his own decisions. As his girlfriend only, you don't have say in this yet. I would back off from this for a little while until he is found competent. If he is put in a home, you should have easier access to see him as he gets better. The ball is totally in his court now.

I know that backing off is the last thing on your mind right now. However, if you keep fighting this it will only cause more stress on your boyfriend and cause his family to push you away even further. Just wait and see what the court or his doctor decides.


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Sent November 14, 2006 5:34 p.m. (12 hours and 11 minutes later)

Our court date is the 22nd next wednesday, if I do back off then who is going to stop his family from messing with his head, they are confusing him I'm not sure if his Dr. is aware of how many times they change his room. I don't think I could back off, I love him, also I got the police report, the woman who caused the accident ran, a witness followed her and took her back to the scene of the accident. Do you think that maybe they want me out of the picture so they can get power of attorney, if there is a big settlement they can do as they like with it. They are up to something, I would be leaving him with vultures!
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November 14, 2006 6:58 p.m. (1 hour and 23 minutes later)

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